In case you’ve missed my announcements on social media, I want to share here that I am delighted to be scheduled as the featured reader at the forthcoming November Erotic Literary Salon in Philadelphia! This will be my third time as the featured reader at the Salon, and I am honored to be invited as such.
You can find all the details about attending at the press release, but the quick and dirty is that it will be on Tuesday, November 18 (the Salon is regularly held the third Tuesday of every month) at TIME (The Bohemian Absinthe Lounge) in Philadelphia. If you’re unfamiliar with the Salon, much of the evening is comprised of open-mic readers offered five-minute increments during which to read. Anyone is welcome to read at the Salon as long as you sign up in advance.
As far as my time slot, I’m not sure yet exactly what I’ll be reading aloud, but I’m leaning toward dividing my segment in half in order to read an excerpt from both If… Then and Safe. I’m really looking forward to being there!
If you find yourself in the area, please feel welcome to join us! :)
-Sugarland “Stand Up”
Welcome to my stop on the virtual book tour for Sex and Cupcakes: A Juicy Collection of Essays (on sale now at Amazon and iBooks), the inaugural single-author book from prolific sex writer, erotica editor, and cupcake connoisseur Rachel Kramer Bussel! I am delighted to be participating in the tour, which you may find and follow along with here. In addition, Rachel is holding an in-person book release party on November 17 at Sweet Revenge—find all the details on that on the Facebook invitation.
This may sound far-fetched, but the fact is, the first paragraph of the introduction of Sex and Cupcakes captivated me. Intensely. Those six sentences resonated with me so much and struck me as so full of insight that I came to write this sentence down literally before I’d even gotten halfway through the introduction. Upon finishing the introduction, I honestly didn’t know how one could not find it electrifyingly intriguing. I certainly did.
Full disclosure: Rachel has bestowed upon me the honor, many times, of publishing my work in her anthologies. Exactly half of the stories in my first single-author short story collection, If… Then, were previously published in anthologies edited by Rachel. Three of the stories in my second collection, Safe, were. She has published me more than all the other editors who have combined (not counting, of course, the publisher of said brand new collections). I have loved working with her and am truly honored to have made so many appearances in her compilations.
So one could say I might find it difficult to offer a “fair” or “objective” review of a volume she penned in its entirety.
Perhaps. But one could also say that I have felt drawn to submitting to her anthologies and working with her because I have familiarized myself with and followed her work, much of which has included nonfiction writing for a variety of publications, and found it consistently resonant and compelling. That would be accurate, and I suspect it goes far in accounting for the enthusiasm and appreciation I feel for her first single-author volume of nonfiction essays. I guessed that I would like Sex and Cupcakes enough to rave about it, and I was correct.
Sex and Cupcakes is a compilation of nine of the author’s luminous essays in one place, offering a (luscious buttercream frosting) taste of her extensive examination of, as she herself puts it, “how ideas about sexual freedom impact our society.” In addition to penetrating explorations on universal themes of life, sex, connection, society, and various correlations therein, the author also delves deep into her own personal experience, offering memoir of a captivating and illuminating nature that, we eventually see, frequently harkens back to these universal themes and macrocosmic observations of social phenomena.
To me, “My Boyfriend’s Fat” exemplified this juxtaposition, gracefully weaving the author’s inner perspective on her intimate relationship with insights into society’s (astonishingly intrusive and, as I see it, relatively arbitrary) relationship with fat, adding in level-headed recognitions about how the circumstances of said fat affect her and her boyfriend’s lives. It was one of my favorite pieces.
I also found myself loving and strikingly relating to “Monogamishmash,” an essay that, as I experienced it, displayed a trait I noticed throughout my reading of Sex and Cupcakes. It is that Rachel doesn’t hold back from displaying her personal vulnerabilities and uncertainties in the memoir within these pages. I found this to make the writing more authentic, engaging, interesting, and relatable. I have the feeling she writes with not only a desire to express herself but also to offer connection to her readers, who may find things here to relate to, discover about themselves, feel relief about seeing in another. In short, as Rachel puts it herself in the title essay, “I hope … my books and writing have helped open other people up as well.”
Speaking of the title piece, which is, of course, called “Sex and Cupcakes,” it seemed to me to be the highlight of the compilation. This was not just because it is significantly longer than the rest of the essays but also because it offers a comprehensive glimpse into these two aspects of the author’s life that have become, somewhat unexpectedly, so pivotal to her everyday existence and her career. Their juxtaposition and the author’s presentation of how she experiences the professional, social, and personal implications of each not only makes for interesting reading but is also, as usual, filled with the incisive observations and assessments the author has established as characteristic throughout the volume.
It’s worth noting that in addition to the curiosity, contemplation, exploration, and openness Rachel offers in these pieces, she is also simply a skilled writer. Thus the content she provides is not only compelling to peruse but is noticeably complemented by clear, lovely prose to express it.
Never, as I interpret it, does the author presume she is speaking for or representing anyone but herself, which I find a grounding and ingratiating characteristic in almost any writing but particularly in memoir or social commentary. As she says in “Sex and Cupcakes”: “I don’t have all the answers and I don’t pretend to. What I do have is a curiosity about my own and others’ sexuality, about what turns people on and how those interests relate to the culture at large.”
Those two sentences encompass a summation of how I ultimately experienced Sex and Cupcakes: as a diverse collection of curious, probing, sincere musings of someone who is truly and unapologetically fascinated by sex. As one who has that in common with the author, this book was an endeavor I actively appreciated.
If you’ve ever read the author’s work online (and if you have an interest in relationships, sexuality, and/or memoir, you probably either have or will want to) and appreciated it, Sex and Cupcakes is something you’ll almost certainly want to devour as a comprehensive taste of the thoughtfulness, relatability, and insight she has to offer. If you haven’t yet been exposed to her work, I recommend this volume as a superb place to start.
In the title piece, Rachel says (accurately, it seems to me), “Focusing on sex as an intelligent point of conversation, as something lively, worthy and interesting, is beyond the pale for a lot of people.”
It is certainly our gain that the author is not one of them.
“There is a particular kind of venom that comes out when you speak and write about sex, whether it’s autobiographical or not. You reveal a vulnerability and tap into the dirty little secret of our supposedly sex-saturated, anything-goes American culture: that deep down, we are pretty prudish.”
-Rachel Kramer Bussel, in the title essay of Sex & Cupcakes
You may have noticed that things look a little different here at The Green Light District. I’ve recently completed a bit of an update to the site, offering more prominent access to my new single-author short story collections, Safe (erotica) and If… Then (erotic romance). Though the blog is no longer the entry/landing page from the splash page, it is always accessible via the “Blog” tab above. :) (The direct link to the blog has not changed, so no need to update bookmarks, links, etc. Thank you!)
I’m a little bit behind on announcing a few things, so this post is going to serve multiple purposes! First, today I am honored to return to the Romance Lives Forever (RLF) blog with an interview about my erotic romance collection, If… Then! I am delighted to be back at RLF (I first appeared there last year with an interview about Lustfully Ever After), and I so appreciate the generosity of Kayelle Allen, proprietor of the RLF blog. An extract from “Shattered Angels,” one of the stories in If… Then, is included in the post.
In addition, last week the fabulous K D Grace invited me to come to her blog to talk about my erotica short story collection, Safe. It was a pleasure to be back at A Hopeful Romantic, and I so appreciate K D’s inviting me! In this post I ruminate a bit about story endings (happy, not-so-happy, otherwise…) and share an excerpt from one of the stories in Safe, “To Make It That Way.”
Lastly, I’m quite excited to share that I am scheduled to be the featured reader at the November Erotic Literary Salon in Philadelphia! I have attended the Salon a number of times (twice as a featured reader), and I am so flattered that Susana Mayer, founder and proprietor of the Salon, invited me to come back in November to celebrate the release of my books. The Salon will be held the evening of Tuesday, November 18, and I will probably split up my featured reader time and read a bit from both Safe and If… Then. :) Please see the Salon’s press release and website for any details about attending!
Thanks so much, as usual, for being here, and be well.
-Pink Floyd “Time”
“Rites of the Savage Tribe” by Jean Roberta (Sex and Culture, Youth, Sociology) 8/26/14
I find this such a thoughtful piece, and to me it articulates important circumstances and tendencies we would do well to recognize.
“Sex Research Confuses Casual Sex with Causal Sex” by Cory Silverberg (Youth, Sex and Culture, Sexuality Research) Undated
I find this piece generously written, which I appreciate and tend to prefer to err toward myself. In this case, the one thing with which I slightly disagree is in Cory’s final paragraph when he says he doesn’t think the researchers are aiming to mislead. From a certain angle, I agree with that, but from another, I suspect they may really think “casual” sex is somehow bad, wrong, or at least lesser than “other” kinds of sex and thus are eager to not only prove something but to “prove,” more specifically, that. (Incidentally, any time I see the word “prove” associated with social research, I experience an immediate wariness.) Anyway, I much appreciate Cory’s exploration in this piece and am glad he wrote it.
“6 Totally Normal Things Young Girls Do When They’re Discovering Their Sexuality That No One Ever Talks About” by Kat George (Childhood, Sexuality Education, Sex and Culture) 11/4/14
Yes, yes, and more yes…to me, this is just filled with “yes.” I find it great to see and so appreciate its being written.
Now that I have a book (books, actually, but the erotic romance one is the one I’m emphasizing in MFRW promotions :)) of my own, I get the pleasure of taking advantage of Marketing for Romance Writers (MFRW) promotional opportunities like Book Hooks! A number of authors participate each week, so please follow the links below my post to check out theirs as well.
This week I’m excerpting six sentences from one of the stories in my erotic romance collection, If… Then, which was released last month from 1001 Nights Press. The collection comprises ten stories—eight previously published and two new—and the official blurb and buy links are below.
From “Relative Anonymity”:
BLURB: In these tales of sizzling erotic romance, deep affection and the warmth of familiarity underlie the erotic connection between longtime lovers. “The Plant on the Mantel” explores the unexpected implications of a generations-past affair on a young married couple. “Honey Changes Everything” finds Kim wondering how to lead her husband out of his state of despair upon losing his job; inspiration comes when breakfast in bed serves up more than just pancakes. And “If…” and “…Then” examine what happens when Valerie finds herself intensely attracted to someone other than her boyfriend—and what he does when he finds out.
Sometimes looking at her life had felt like looking at scenes from a book: they fit together perfectly, but she almost hadn’t felt inside or a part of them. She and David grew up together, their families were best friends, and they loved each other, but their marriage was like a piece of a puzzle of overall togetherness that the situation required. “They as a couple” had sometimes seemed like no more than a congeniality, a formality to complete things the way they were supposed to be completed. Was it about privacy? Maybe. Carly wasn’t even sure what she meant by that, but she knew that privacy had seemed like a mysterious, elusive concept that occurred in other people’s lives.
-“Relative Anomymity” in If… Then: a collection of erotic romance stories
With two original stories (“Soft and Gray” and “Shattered Angels”) joining the eight previously published tales in this collection, If… Then is a testament to the scorching eroticism that can so seamlessly subsist with long-term romance.
Buy If… Then: a collection of erotic romance stories from:
Thank you for coming by, and please do check out the other authors participating in this week’s Book Hooks listed below!