Archive for January, 2011

January 31st, 2011

The Gotta Have It Book Trailer

Here it is! Editor Rachel Kramer Bussel has just debuted the book trailer for the brand new anthology Gotta Have It: 69 Stories of Sudden Sex. The trailer, embedded below, contains excerpts of the authors themselves reading from their Gotta Have It stories. Watch/listen for the tantalizing snippets and sultry voices of, in addition to Rachel herself, Andrea Dale, Shanna Germain, Jeremy Edwards, Helia Brookes, and Donna George Storey, along with yours truly and a number of others! The full list of trailer contributors is listed below it.

Trailer contributors:

Christen Clifford
“After Ten Years”

Giselle Renarde
“Meet Me In The Kitchen”

Andrea Dale
“Wasn’t It Good”

Shanna Germain

Elizabeth Daniels
“Dining In The Dark”


Marina Saint
“Eat Me”

Jeremy Edwards
“No Blame, No Shame”

Heather Lin
“Seven-Letter Word”

Kay Jaybee
“The Advantage of Working From Home”

Vampirique Dezire
“A Forced Witness”


Rachel Kramer Bussel

Kirsty Logan

Anya Levin
“Continuing Education”

Helia Brookes
“Over The Line”

Donna George Storey

Gotta Have It is on sale now at Amazon and these retailers!


For some reason he reveled in the way her mouth fell slight open, beautiful eyes disbelieving as they looked into his. . . . The flush in her cheeks betrayed her excitement.
-from “Suggestion” (as read in the book trailer)

January 29th, 2011

Gotta Have It Early!

Or late, or midday, or…oh, but what I mean, of course, is that the newest Rachel Kramer Bussel-edited anthology, Gotta Have It: 69 Stories of Sudden Sex, published by Cleis Press, is out now! It wasn’t scheduled to be released until next month, but it is in stock currently at Amazon and other vendors—a list of whom may be found here on the book’s website.

I’m very excited to read this book, positively loaded with incredible authors, as well as have my own story, “Suggestion,” included in the table of contents. The full lineup/table of contents is listed on the book’s website too, and my understanding is the book trailer is coming soon. I’ll post it here when I see it!

In the meantime, I’m eagerly awaiting my author copy of Gotta Have It—I can hardly wait to read this big collection of little sexy stories!


He forgot about their audience as she met his eyes, the unabashed mischief in her blue glaze sparking his own breathless, and unfamiliar, spontaneity. . . . For the first time, Greg understood that energy—the sincere, vibrant love of every inch of potential her body held. The same impulse sizzled forward in him, fueling the urgency to pull every stitch she wore off of her with the same focus and attention she had used to put it on.
-from “Suggestion”

January 26th, 2011

Recommended Reading #31: Porn, Pt. II

      “The Anti-Male, Anti-Sex Falsehoods That Rule Discussions about Porn and Sexuality” by Tana Ganeva (Sex and Culture, Gender) 1/21/11

Given what seems to me the commonplace and generally-accepted-without-questioning nature of many of the perceptions of supposed “evils” of pornography, especially in relation to assumptions based on gender and sexuality, I appreciate seeing articles like this that explain perspectives beyond these societally unquestioned (and, it seems to me, fear-based) notions and why sometimes the complaints and assumptions about pornography are reinforcing the very views they profess to lament.


      “Porn Sex Ed” by Kathleen Bradean (Memoir, Sexuality Education) 9/27/10

I love this lighthearted lesson from Ms. Bradean about what she learned from watching porn in high school. (I am especially, of course, partial to #7!)


      “Film Debut” by Juliet Anderson (Memoir) Undated

Famous pornographic performer Juliet “Aunt Peg” Anderson died last year. In perusing this website dedicated to her after I read of the news, I found this short autobiographical account of her debut in pornographic films that struck me as inspiring, delightful, and uplifting. (I related to it as well.) I’m not sure why it’s seemed so hard for some people to understand that this is not some impossibility in porn, but I found her description lovely—and something I would love for the general population to read.


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January 19th, 2011

Recommended Reading #30: Gender Socialization

      “A Manifesto for Radical Masculinity” by Sinclair Sexsmith (Gender, Sexual Orientation) 12/25/09

I appreciate the wide-ranging introduction and discussion of questions around masculinity in this piece, in part because it has always seemed to me that gender socialization (as in prescribed gender roles based on biological sex) is a blatant disservice to everyone, not just to women as some interpretations of feminism have seemed (to me) to imply in the past. The approach of this piece strikes me as considered, caring, sincere, open, and thorough.


      “Fag Bashing & Slut Shaming: It’s About Policing Gender Roles” by Dr. Charlie Glickman (Sex and Culture) 9/10/10

I love this piece. To me it seems to reflect beautifully the perception in me that social prescriptions according to gender constrain individuals in arbitrary ways, disallowing full, individualized, authentic expression. For this reason I find the entire process of gender socialization woeful, and I have ever since I became aware that it existed. It also seems obvious to me that we all have masculine and feminine representation in us; the idea of that not being understood or of some kind of social or collective demand that any part of that not be recognized or displayed seems anathema to me.


      “Let’s Rethink Masculinity” by Joan C. Williams (Non-sex-related, Gender, Social Perception) 10/6/10

This article also deals with masculinity (in the discussion of gender socialization, it makes sense to me to see an emerging focus on masculinity and men since in the recent—in relation to human existence, I mean—past there has seemed so much focus on women. This focus has been understandable, of course; in the larger picture of gender socialization, however, I appreciate acknowledging and examining how, again, gender-based prescriptions affect and are of detriment to all), particularly in the professional/livelihood realm. The only hesitation I hold with this piece is what seems to me a presumed association between men and masculinity. To me the two are not at all synonymous, as again, we all have the masculine and the feminine in us in ways that are far beyond the biological sex of our physical bodies. At times my reading of the piece seemed to express the two as interchangeable or inherently related. The historical collective association of certain traits as masculine or feminine seems to me importantly distinguished from actually perceiving such traits to be inherently more prominent in one sex than the other. The author may not have been proposing this; it was just an interpretation I experienced occasionally in reading the article. That being said, overall I appreciate a number of the offerings made in this piece and its invitation to recognize the socialization of masculinity as an important part of discussion on gender and understanding of gender equity.


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January 12th, 2011

Recommended Reading #29: Politics

Note: The topic being “Politics” this week is not in direct connection with the recent tragedy in Arizona. Politics had been in the queue as a potential subject for a few weeks, and while it was upon reading the third installment of today’s selection that I felt moved to choose it right now, this post overall is not representative of any commentary from me on that event (indeed, the other two selections were written before it occurred and are not related to it at all).

      “To the Oklahoma Lawmakers: poem” by Lauren Zuniga (Recommended Watch, Reproductive Rights) 5/4/10

This video is the performance of a poem in response to the proposed Oklahoma state legislation requiring that women requesting an abortion be shown an ultrasound of the fetus by a health care provider before they may receive one. As a reproductive rights activist, I have been aware of this kind of legislation in various states and was aware specifically of the emergence of this example when it was reported on. This video strikes me as stark and intense as well as poignant and affecting.


      “The National Portrait Gallery Betrays Constitutional Principles” (Censorship, Free Speech, Religion) 12/3/10

That the National Portrait Gallery chose to remove a display due to pressure from a particular religious faction seems dismaying to me. I deeply appreciate this commentary in response from the National Coalition Against Censorship (NCAC).


      “Dim Bulb of the Week: It’s a Massive Three Way Tie!” at PostHumorous (Non-sex-related, Government and Culture, United States History) 1/12/11

I happen to have just included a post from this site in Recommended Reading a few weeks ago when the category was “Humor”…because that’s what this site usually contains. Today, however, the author posted an entry in the “serious” category—and it struck me so much that I wanted to share it here. (Note: I too am usually a fan of Keith Olbermann’s commentary.)


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