Archive for September, 2012

September 26th, 2012

Recommended Reading #118: Perception and Underlying Bias



      “How media clearly reflects the sexism and the racism we cannot see in ourselves.” by Aubrey Li (Race, Gender, Sociology, Non-Sex-Related) 9/9/12

This seemed to me a powerful piece, and I winced reading it. Not because I was judgmentally horrified by what the students did, but because, painful as I find it, I don’t doubt I might do the same thing (also completely unwittingly), and because I strongly feel racism, sexism, and other “-isms” are indoctrinated in us at a subliminal level so that we may experience these kinds of perceptions without realizing it even if we don’t consider ourselves “racist,” etc. The things expressed here are the kinds of things it seems to me very important to see, as recognizing them can help unwind that subconscious indoctrination.

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      “Can I Have Fat Pride Without Throwing Thin Women Under The Bus?” by Emily Heist Moss (Health and Body, Gender, Sociology, Non-Sex-Related) 8/30/12

I love and appreciate this and wholly agree with what I interpret her as saying. I especially adore her pointing out how magical and extraordinary bodies really are—all appearance aside!

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      “Feminist Polygamy” by Steven Padnick (Non-Monogamy, Relationship, Sex and Culture) Undated

I love this breakdown of stereotypical and often unconscious/subconscious perceptions about gender and relationship. (I too am sorry to see Mr. Savage positing such things, but while I have often appreciated what he’s had to say, I know I have not always agreed with all of it.) I find this piece filled with insight and articulated beautifully.

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September 19th, 2012

Recommended Reading #117: Fiction, Pt. IV



      “Real Men” by Elissa Wald (Non-Erotic Fiction) 5/27/12

This may seem a little long. But it is so extraordinary, I simply recommend reading it.

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      “You’re Ugly When You Come” by Alana Noël Voth (Explicit Fiction, Heterosexual) 9/9/12

I found this piece gorgeous and striking—as I have most of the things I’ve ever read by Alana Noel Voth.

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      “Two Fronts” by Craig J. Sorensen (Erotic Fiction, Lesbian) 2009

I love this beautiful, evocative, seamless story from one of my favorite erotica writers.

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September 12th, 2012

Recommended Reading #116: Memoir, Pt. V



      “Why I’m Pro Life but Not ‘Pro-Life'” by Rachel Kramer Bussel (Reproductive Rights, Politics, Philosophy) 9/10/12

I find this a beautiful and eloquent exposition on things that, while they seem obvious to me, also seem of the highest relevance to express in current society.

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      “How to Tell Your Parents You’re a Prostitute” by Robin Hustle (Sex Work, Parenting, Sex and Society) 9/7/12

I found this compelling in a number of ways, addressing powerful questions around parenting, choices, sex work, and society.

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      “The Bare Truth: Why I Don’t Have Pubic Hair” by Alyssa Royse (Gender, Sex and Society, Sex and Aging) 9/11/12

This is so magnificent, as far as I’m concerned. For whatever reason, it actually brought me to tears at the end. Beautiful, for so many reasons/in so many ways.

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September 5th, 2012

Recommended Reading #115: Responding to Discord, Pt. II



      “Bullies on the Bus” by Charles M. Blow (Non-Sex-Related, Sociology, Politics, Youth) 6/22/12

I find this an insightful, powerful piece, and indeed I agree with Mr. Blow’s assessment. As I expressed in a piece I wrote in 2010, I frequently see the ugly actions of children as resultant of the example we as adults set for them. I wish us all the strength and awareness to recognize our own patterns and unconsciousness that contribute to such.

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      “When rape jokes aren’t funny” by Julie Burton and Michelle Kinsey Bruns (Gender, Sociology, Psychology) 7/16/12

I will first point out that while I deliberately did not follow very much about this story, my (limited) impression was not that reaction seemeed split down gender lines (which I much appreciate). In the larger picture, it may have seemed so, but I just wanted to mention that to give credit to the noticeable perspectives from (those identifying as) men that I saw. However, the overall offering I perceive in this piece about empathy and experience in the context of the gross socialization around gender and sexuality I see in this culture at this time is, from my point of view, well-taken.

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      “Jodie Foster Blasts Kristen Stewart–Robert Pattinson Break-Up Spectacle” by Jodie Foster (Privacy, Sociology, Fame) 8/15/12

I love this so much I hardly know where to start saying why. I have long found abhorrent this society’s tendency to feel entitled to know about and comment on things that are none of its business whatsoever simply because the person’s life in question is famous for whatever reason. I find this piece beautifully written, I love what it says, am I am so very glad to see someone saying it.


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