Archive for August, 2013

August 28th, 2013

Recommended Reading #164: Digging Deeper, Pt. VIII



      “The Danger in Demonizing Male Sexuality” by Alyssa Royse (Sex and Culture, Gender Socialization) 5/28/13

I so appreciate seeing this being said and wholeheartedly agree.

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      “Sex, Disability, and the Price of Admission to The New York Times” by Cory Silverberg (Sex and Disability, Sex and Culture, Sex Work) 7/8/13

A nice piece from Cory Silverberg addressing a recent article in the NYTimes. (One of the things I personally found annoying about said piece was the distinction that seemed to be made between prostitution and services offered to individuals who experience disability, as though trying to convince someone that the latter is acceptable…because obviously the former is, you know, not. To be more specific: “‘Prostitution is a fake debate; the goals are different,’ said Pascale Ribes, who in 2011 founded the Disabilities and Sexualities Group, an association defending sexual surrogates in France. […] ‘Sexual assistance is about allowing a disabled person who can’t access sexuality in a satisfying way to reconnect with the body,’ Ms. Ribes said.” Because prostitution could never be about that, of course. Grrr…) I read the article, and I appreciate this piece from Cory even more because it helps me recognize and/or become aware of things I either didn’t notice or realize when I read it or that had simply not occurred to me.

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      “Prostitution Law and the Death of Whores” by Laura Agustín (Sex Work, Sex and Culture, Sociology, International Laws and Legal Systems) 8/15/13

This may seem long, and it definitely strikes me as thoughtful and detailed rather than sensationalistic or entertaining. It is something perhaps those compelled by activist and/or academic assessments relating to sex work and social sciences would be most interested in reading. Since I fit that description, I found it fascinating. I have often appreciated what Laura Agustín has had to say in such contexts, as well as the way she’s said it.

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August 21st, 2013

Recommended Reading #163: Parenting, Pt. VI



      “Why Introverts Fail At Attachment Parenting” by Lynn Beisner (Non-Sex-Related, Psychology, Sociology) 7/23/12

This line sums up not only the value of this article for me but also an essential truth in being: “I would argue, however, that the first step to being a good parent is being a self-aware person.” I see self-awareness as the essential basis for being effective at anything. Beyond that, while I am not a parent, I appreciate what I interpret as the gist of this article and imagine numerous people might find it helpful. If I were a parent, I feel little doubt I would feel resonance with what is offered here.

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      “GA Allows Transgender Girl To Use — Oh My! — The Girls’ Room” by Cristan (Trans*, Interview, Youth) 8/22/13

I found this an extraordinary and illuminating interview, and I share it for both reasons—I don’t pretend to be any kind of expert on trans* issues, and I like seeing things that seem helpful, education-wise, for both me and others. In addition, of course, I found it heartening to read of a family so supportive of its members.

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      “10 Things I Plan to Tell My Daughter About Sex That Aren’t That Purity Movement Crap” by Jef With One F (Sex and Culture, Youth, Sexuality Education) 7/23/13

I especially, profoundly love number six. And number one. I experience this whole piece as refreshing and heartening and so appreciate its being written.

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August 14th, 2013

Recommended Reading #162: Youth, Pt. IV



      “I’m The 14-Year-Old Who Wrote The ‘Jesus Isn’t A Dick So Keep Him Out of My Vagina’ Sign In Texas And Was Labeled A ‘Whore’ By Strangers Online” by Tuesday Cain (Reproductive Rights, Politics, U.S. Public Policy, Parenting) 7/22/13

I am inspired that this young woman wrote this and by what she says. It also strikes me how much sense it makes and how indeed it does sound more considered, mature, and humane than many things I (and, obviously, she) have seen adults say. Sigh.

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      “Tramps like us: Target and modern day misogyny” by Lauren Rosewarne (Sex and Culture, Sex Work, Parenting) 8/20/12

I tend to really appreciate commentary that draws attention to what I perceive as the ubiquitous and generally unnoticed disparagement of sex workers—and why it is problematic. This does so (as I see it), and I found the angle from which it was presented relevant and compelling.

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      “Worried about the sexualisation of children? Teach sex ed earlier” by Jenny Walsh (Youth, Sexuality Education, Sex and Culture) 10/26/12

Well put.

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August 7th, 2013

Recommended Reading #161: Humor, Pt. V



      “True Facts About the Seahorse” by ZeFrank (Recommended Watch, Animals, Comedy) 1/17/13

“True Facts About” is a whole series on YouTube, and some of them really crack me up. This is one of my current favorites. :)

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      “Acquitted Development” on The Daily Show (Recommended Watch, Non-Sex-Related, U.S. Public Policy, Sociology) 7/15/13

I definitely find this dark humor, as it obviously addresses very serious issues. But, as I’ve often experienced with The Daily Show, I appreciate the effectiveness of highlighting them via the use of sharp humor. I chose not to closely follow the case referenced (as I’ve generally chosen to eschew mainstream news in recent years) and don’t feel I would know everything relevant about the situation even if I had, but especially in relation to the second case mentioned toward the end of the clip, this commentary seems to me to point out some of the serious distortions that currently exist in the U.S. legal system.

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      “The 25 Most Awkward Cat Sleeping Positions” at BuzzFeed animals (Non-Sex-Related, Animals) 2/1/12

Truly, I laughed out loud at several of these.

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