Archive for January, 2014

January 29th, 2014

Recommended Reading #186: (United States) Public Policy, Pt. V

      “Sex worker fights for victims of rape, assault” by Justin Berton (Sex Work, Sex and Culture, Politics) 12/14/13

It is abhorrent to me that such a legislative initiative was ever given the slightest bit of credence, but I like this article and what I interpret it as expressing a lot (especially since it has a happy ending).


      “I’m Polyamorous: So What If Same-Sex Marriage Is A Slippery Slope?” by Angi Becker Stevens (Non-Monogamy, Relationship, Sex and Culture) 3/28/13

I personally don’t resonate with what I perceive to be society’s profound attachment to marriage; I don’t really see why legality and marriage are connected at all (i.e., why marriage is a matter of the state). But as long as it is, I appreciate the perspective I interpret this piece as offering. And marriage aside, I appreciate what I see it as saying about the perceived validity of different types of romantic/sexual relationships in general.


      “A pregnancy, an abortion and a story to tell” by Steve Blow (Reproductive Rights, Abortion, Health and Body, Politics) 1/18/14

While it’s sincerely hard for me to imagine people not understanding this, I share and recommend it because it seems some do not. Because of the political strife that exists in this realm (which I find regrettable), these heartbreaking stories seem important for the public to hear/read of.


Recommended Reading posted every Wednesday

January 22nd, 2014

Recommended Reading #185: Memoir, Pt. VI

      “I’m Fat, Forty And Single And I’m Having No Problems Getting Laid All The Time” by Christine Whelan (Sex and Culture, Body Image, Relationship) 1/9/14

I find this simply delightful and love almost about everything about it: That she is able to discern and own what she wants. That she gives negligible energy (about how much is deserved) to cultural beauty/body-shape standards. That she does not begrudge others for having personal tastes, just as she has hers. That she is attentive to and consistently practices safe sex. That she demonstrates no shame, embarrassment, or concern about the sexual double standards, judgements, or oppressive and repressive overtones that permeate our culture. And that she wrote it down to share with the online reading public. Love, love, love.


      “Save your Relationships: Ask the Right Questions” by Glennon Melton (Relationship, Communication, Self-Awareness) 1/16/14

This, I will admit, had not seemed to really occur to me—at least not consciously. I’m glad to read it, as it resonates with me and makes much sense.


      “Dear Mollena…” by Mollena (Self-Awareness, BDSM, Relationship) 12/12/13

I not only find this beautiful but feel struck by what a beautiful exercise it seems to write oneself a letter like this.


Recommended Reading posted every Wednesday

January 21st, 2014

MFRW Newsletter Wins in the P&E Poll!

There’s a new graphic in the left sidebar (under “Memberships & Recognition”). It looks like this:


I’m so pleased that the Marketing for Romance Writers (MFRW) monthly newsletter was voted “Best Writers’ Resource/Information/News Source” in the 2013 Preditors & Editors Poll! As an assistant newsletter editor, I help proofread the newsletter each month before it’s put out. Rochelle Weber is the editor and does most of the work, of course, but I’m delighted to be part of the team that was recognized in such a fabulous way. :) Congratulations to Rochelle and MFRW overall!


“‘Cause everybody wants some love, shooting from the stars above…I could never get enough…”
-Weezer “Photograph”

January 18th, 2014

Inaugural Monthly Quote at the MFRW Marketing Blog!

quotation-marksI love quotes. There are so many I’ve found striking or by which I’ve felt nearly overwhelmed, and I’ve long kept a list of them. When the new MFRW Blog Director, Paloma Beck, asked the Marketing for Romance Writers staff if anyone wanted to be in charge of posting a monthly quote to the revamped marketing blog, I jumped at the chance. So, in addition to my monthly posts about moderating a Facebook group there on the 5th of each month, I’ll be posting a quote on the 18th.

Which, of course, is today—the first one may be found here. :) Don’t forget to check the marketing blog regularly for loads of helpful guidance on all manner of marketing subjects!


“In the end it’s better to say too much than never to say what you need to say…do it with a heart wide open, say what you need to say…”
-John Mayer “Say”

January 15th, 2014

Recommended Reading #184: Perspective and Judgement, Pt. III

      “Explaining White Privilege to a Broke White Person” by Gina Crosley-Corcoran (Non-Sex-Related, Sociology, Race, Class, Gender) 11/20/13

I really appreciate the measured, nuanced, thorough way I interpret the author as presenting this perspective on a topic I find important.


      “Monosexism: Battling the Biases of Biphobia” by Erin Tatum (Sexual Orientation, Gender, Relationship) 11/27/13

It simultaneously amazes me and doesn’t surprise me (yes, that’s possible ;)) that we collectively seem to feel so strongly about labeling our and others’ sexual predilections or identities. I suppose to some degree mostly unconscious pulls of definitions of monogamy and gender identity influence this, but the importance of such is truly lost on me. I seem to be in a minority there. I appreciate that this piece counters some seemingly common stereotypes that seem to me rooted in astonishing ignorance; I feel sadness that they exist and that such a piece would seem relevant, but as long as they seem to and it does, I’m glad to see it being expressed.


      “5 Countries That Do It Better: How Sexual Prudery Makes America a Less Healthy and Happy Place” by Alex Henderson (Sex and Culture, Politics, Public Policy) 4/12/12

While I find most of what is contained here rather obvious, it seems some people don’t. To me, the connections between sexual repression (personal and collective) and unconscious and distorted perspectives and behaviors (particularly around sexuality) could not seem clearer, but I appreciate pieces like this for those who do not share that perspective with me.


Recommended Reading posted every Wednesday