Archive for February, 2014

February 28th, 2014

Best Erotic Romance 2014 Is Out Now!

My contributor copies of Best Erotic Romance 2014, edited by Kristina Wright and published by Cleis Press, arrived last night—which reminded me, of course, that I have been remiss in not yet announcing its release here!

Best Erotic Romance 2014 is in stock now at Amazon, Barnes & Noble, its publisher, and elsewhere now! Along with all the fabulousness I anticipate finding between the covers, have you looked at the cover itself?? It’s one of my favorites of all the anthologies in which I’ve been.

On that note, my story “Rules” is in this book, and I’m so honored to be in another edition of Kristina’s Best Erotic Romance series. (Incidentally, if you’re reading this and would like to be in an edition yourself, she is taking submissions for next year’s edition right now!) I technically started “Rules” years ago when Alison Tyler asked her blog readers to write flash stories around the theme of “violet” (the color…or the flower, I guess; I worked with the color!). I ended up creating a different flash piece, and the premise of what would become “Rules” lay dormant for some time. I went to work on it again last year, and it developed into the story I ended up submitting to Kristina. I had a great time writing it, in part because it involves what I consider a fun outfit, and as much as I love fun outfits, it seems I haven’t delved into them a lot in much of my work. :)

So now it’s time to crack into one of my contributor copies; if you join me and procure a copy of your own, I do hope you enjoy it!


When she was done, Joyce turned to look at herself in the full-length mirror. Her immediate response was to laugh. Head to toe in gleaming black, reams of shining purple polyester framed her face, the bangs almost reaching her eyelashes as her heavily-outlined green eyes blinked back at her. Her lips were the color of ripe cherries.

Wow, I used to look this way all the time on purpose, she thought as she left the bathroom. She made her way down to the basement—carefully, given the six-inch platform heels—and pulled the photo from the top of the box. […] She looked at the picture, searching for what her husband had seen. Searching for who she’d been back then. Was it different from who she was now?
-from “Rules”

February 26th, 2014

Recommended Reading #190: Sex as Labor, Pt. IV

      “I’m The Duke University Freshman Porn Star And For The First Time I’m Telling The Story In My Words” by Lauren A. (Sex and Culture, Sex Work, Memoir, Pornography) 2/21/14

I appreciate this piece profoundly. In addition, I was impressed by how it covers so much territory, from memoir/personal history to historical cultural treatment of female sexuality to cultural denigration of sex workers.


      “Shut Up About How I Should Talk About My Sex Work” by Cameryn Moore (Sex Work, Memoir, Sex and Culture) 8/16/13



      “Twitter and Power” by Noah Berlatsky (Social Media, Sex Work, Privilege) 2/11/14

This struck me as a thorough, thoughtful, incisive, articulate discussion of the matter at hand.


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February 19th, 2014

Recommended Reading #189: Examining Communication, Pt. II

      “How Not to Talk About Human Trafficking” by Ryan Beck Turner (Human Rights, Labor, Sex Work) Undated

This is one of the most measured, straightforward, unbiased (it seems to me) things I have ever read about human trafficking. It seems so helpful and important in a realm surrounded by distortion—both the information that seems to be thrown around it and the deeply horrific act itself.


      “How Do You Handle An Open Relationship?” on Ask A Slut! (Non-Monogamy, Relationship, Psychology) 2/16/14

I appreciate the space in Mark and Patricia’s answer for a non-dichotomous perspective on romantic relationship, and I also like how the questions are posed to oneself in addition to one’s partner(s)…I find communication with self of profound importance.


      “The incredible story of how leopard Diabolo became Spirit – Anna Breytenbach, ‘animal communicator’.” [sic] (Non-Sex-Related, Animals, Consciousness) 11/19/13

I realize this may seem a fairly long video (13 min.), and I debated including it in RR for that reason, but the truth is, I would feel simply remiss if I did not recommend it. I truly see it as so worth the time investment.


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February 18th, 2014

Heart(s) of Glass

Heart(s) of Glass for Toy With Me Tuesday

Heart(s) of Glass for Toy With Me Tuesday

I don’t know why I’m just discovering the Toy With Me Tuesday meme now, but as soon as I learned of it (via an archive tweet of this amazing photo), I knew I wanted to do a belated Valentine’s Day-themed one with my beloved glass hearts dildo.

This dildo, pictured with me above, served as my anal one when I was webcamming. I still remember enthusiastically waving it at the camera right after I got it. “Isn’t it gorgeous??” I raved to a client. He replied, “It’s different. :).” LOL. Sadly, it’s hard to actually see the hearts in the photo, and it seems I can’t even link to the product page (I got it at Good Vibrations years ago), as it appears no longer for sale. So here it is up close:


Of course I thought of this toy immediately for this meme so close to Valentine’s Day, and I’m delighted to take the opportunity to photograph these fabulous thigh-high socks I recently got from American Apparel along with it. Their pairing with my ruffled red satin nightshirt simply epitomizes Valentine’s Day for me; throw in my glass hearts dildo, and it’s a bona fide V-Day extravaganza. ;)


Happy belated Valentine’s Day, and happy Toy With Me Tuesday!


“In between, what I find is pleasing and I’m feeling fine…”
-Blondie “Heart of Glass”

February 12th, 2014

Recommended Reading #188: Shifting Perspectives, Pt. III

      “Why I Post Nude Photos (and why I blog about sex)” by Penny (Self-Awareness, Sex and Culture, Memoir) 1/29/14

I simply adore this. I relate to it as well, but even if I didn’t, I feel the message(s) in it are of profound beauty, relevance, and importance.


      “This little thing called rights ” by Karen R. (Youth, Sexuality Education, Sociology) 2/1/14

I so wholeheartedly agree with the author’s assessment of youth rights (or the lack thereof) and similarly noted and felt enraged by it myself when I was a teenager. I also support shift in cultural perceptions and strictures in this area, and as such I was deeply delighted to see this piece.


      “Beyond Your Control” at The Sensual Life (Self-Awareness, Philosophy, Consciousness) 2/12/14

This gorgeously crafted piece simply pierced right into me, conveying its content not with the actual words but with the awareness, the consciousness, with which it was written. I recommend reading it simply for the experience of that energy (in addition, of course, to the manifestation of the words that emerged from it).


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