September 1st, 2010

Recommended Reading #10: Porn



      “Fantasies and Condoms” on Ask Garnet (Sexual Entertainment, Sexual Health) 6/17/10

This is a post I appreciate because it reflects the personal perspective in me about condom usage in porn. As I’ve mentioned before, in all the performance I have done in porn I have invariably insisted on condom use for all vaginal and anal penetration. It would not occur to me not to, and part of the reason for that is not only my own protection but also to display (what I see as) the importance of condoms in depictions of sexual intercourse and dispel the (again, what I see as) myth that they are somehow “not sexy.” As this piece asks, “. . . [W]ouldn’t it be more beneficial to just think of safer sex items as sexy in themselves?” It seems so to me—I have always found condoms sexy, mainly due to the vast appreciation I feel for their existence. :)

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      “Why You Shouldn’t Learn About Sex From Porn” by Dr. Charlie Glickman (Sexual Entertainment) 8/20/10

I like Dr. Charlie Glickman‘s framing in this piece of the “unrealistic” nature of porn in a larger entertainment/media-oriented context. In a way, this piece could seem to contradict the one above about using condoms in porn. Interesting, and surely open to interpretation. I myself, however, see not using condoms in porn less as something demonstrating unrealistic-ness and more as a loss of an opportunity to display something that is arguably an important part of (non-monogamous) sex in protecting health of self and others. In relation to Dr. Glickman’s piece here, absence of condoms in porn seems to me more comparable to consistent depictions of protagonist TV characters not wearing seatbelts.

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      “Prescription for a Porn-Positive World” by Dr. Dick (Sexual Entertainment, Sexual Culture) 8/27/10

I love this response Dr. Dick gives to an inquiry about his self-proclaimed status as both a pornographer and a sex therapist.

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6 Responses “Recommended Reading #10: Porn”

  1. ste says:

    Another interesting selection, Emerald.

    Can’t argue with what Garnet says in her post… gloves and dental dams and so on just seem like an integral part of a good sex toy collection to me!

  2. Emerald says:

    Hi ste! Sarcasm, I’m guessing? I really do find condoms sexy, as I have found them so instrumental to my own sexual experience. ;)

    Thanks for coming (ha) by!

  3. ste says:

    No, I really meant that. Sorry if it came across as sarcastic, it wasn’t intended that way.

  4. Emerald says:

    Hi ste dear—I’m so sorry; no, it didn’t come across as sarcastic, I just simply guessed that it was. :) My misread!

    Apologies again, and may I say that I much appreciate that perspective, and thank you for expressing it. I read the comments after that post when I first found it (the post), and only one of them seemed to disagree, but it did so in a way that I for whatever reason suspected may not seem so uncommon. So I apologize for jumping to the conclusion that what you said was probably said sarcastically (which is fine, by the way—I actually expected someone might disagree in the comments here with the content of that particular article. Also, I didn’t interpret it as sarcastic personally because it was you—for the same reason/reasons I just described, I would likely have interpreted that comment as sarcastic had it been made by just about anyone).

    Thank you again, and sorry for the unfounded assumption. :) (Which, now that I consider it, was even more unfounded than initially occurred to me, as I have never experienced you as responding sarcastically to anything I have said here before. Apologies, really.)

  5. ste says:

    No worries… just a minor internet misunderstanding!

  6. Emerald says:

    Xoxoxo ste. :) Thanks for coming by!

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